God’s Purpose in Sorrows

As Posilonge held his little son Tom in his arms, I spoon-fed him trying to give him strength as this 6 year old fought for life.  Posilonge was obviously exhausted, as his 11 month old had died during the night from the same sickness that had now made its claims on his older 6 year old boy.  A day and half away from the nearest medical facilities, all that the Mibu believers could do was to pray.  And pray they did!!  “God, give us this boy”, they prayed in their simple way.  After having spent the whole day with them, I walked back home with very mixed emotions.  Saddened at their lot in life, so far away from simple medicine, so that even the most elementary of illnesses often claim their lives.  Yet, I am encouraged to see the dependency on their new found Father.

At 6:30 the next morning, Posilonge’s brother Sivi showed up at my house.  Little Tom had died at 1:00 in the morning.  I went down and immediately went into the house where little Tom was.  I had no sooner finished mourning for him, when Sonde asked me, “Why did God allow this?”  He continued, “We’ve often seen two people die around the same time, but we’ve never seen one man lose two children inside of a day’s time like this”.

We spent the next hour talking about God’s purposes in sorrows.  We talked about how God’s plan for us is to become like Jesus.  As Jesus suffered first, and then was glorified, so God uses suffering in our lives to cause us to depend on Him even more.  This is all to strengthen us.  I told them how in America we purify metal by melting out its impurities.  Seeing that they caught the correlation between that illustration, and God using suffering in our lives to strengthen us so that we can glorify Him further, I asked if they had anything similar in their culture.  They gave me this illustration from their world.

“When we attach arrow tips to the shaft, we use tree sap to hold the tip in place.  But, in order to make the sap work, we have to cook it in the fire first, until it melts, only then we can apply it to the arrow.  When the sap cools, it hardens, securing the tip in the shaft.”  I then asked them to tell me how that applies to this situation.  They concluded that all their pain and suffering was for a purpose, so that they could be further used of God!!

As if that wasn’t enough, God still had something else in mind to teach us in this object lesson.  They asked “Were we wrong to pray to God asking Him to spare this boy’s life”?  From there we discussed how God wants to hear our heart’s desire, but just as we prayed “Not according to our desires, but according to Yours.”  I told them, “We asked God for something good, but He gave us something very good.  This time of sorrow is like training for us to produce in us the ability to serve Him to a greater degree”.

So, that’s how it happened that on July 21, 2006, believers from such an obscure place on planet earth as this joined their voices and said “Thank You” to God for bringing about the intense sadness of the loss of two young boys.

The next day at church (as if God hadn’t already taught us enough), guess who was the one to stand up and publicly pray for a sick man in Tariknan?  It was Posilonge, the man who had lost his two sons.

Privileged beyond words to be here in Mibu PNG, Joey and Brooke Tartaglia